All of us have had a time in our lives where we have felt completely and utterly broken, maybe that time is now, or maybe it was years ago but you still don't feel healed. That's ok, no one is completely healed, we are all a little broken, but our broken pieces, our jagged edges make us different and show our experiences. Imagine a beautiful glass Christmas ornament, its beautiful and amazing, but that's it. Now imagine you drop that ornament and it gets a little chip on it, its no less beautiful, for its the same ornament, but now it has a story, now when you bring out that ornament yo will smile and think about that time you where singing with your family and dancing and accidentally dropped it, now you have a memory with it. You are that Christmas ornament, sure to begin with it was beautiful, but now its beautiful, and has a story. We all have stories, we are all bits of broken glass, but people make art with broken glass, you are artwork, and no matter how shattered you are, no matter how chipped or scratched, you have a story, that makes you you. When glass is broken no piece looks exactly like another, we are all different, no one is a perfect piece of unbroken glass, besides, whats the fun in being perfect anyway? 😉
Mental issues are very commonly twisted, people believe you need a reason for them to happen. That your life must be incredibly dark for you to have depression, or that you have to have gone through war to have post traumatic stress disorder, or you would have had to have been abused to have anxiety. However this is not the case, mental disorders do not care about circumstance, you can live a very safe and full life but some how still have depression or have been through something YOU found to have been terrifying which gave you PTSD. There will always be critics, someone saying "oh you cant feel this way, there is someone out there who has it worse" and what really sucks is sometimes that person is you. Sometimes its us who decide our pain is foolish, that we shouldn't feel that way because of the things you have. However, you cant compare your pain to someone else's, because while there pain may be larger then yours, it dosn't make yours any less valid, its still pain, and your allowed to feel that, no matter yours or someone else's circumstances. Be ok with your pain, so that you can begin to treat it, because you can get through it, in your own way, with your own time. <3
Everyone in our lives always tells us to live our dreams and shoot for the stars and that's a great thing and I certainly believe in following your dreams, however you need to be realistic with yourself sometimes. Being realistic does not mean that you should say "this is too hard" or "this is impossible" and quit, it simply means you must know your limitations, this way you can over come them and become closer to your goal. Despite what you see and hear having limits doesn't make things impossible or you less capable, everyone has their limits. Maybe your limit is you are not a fast reader but you want to be a motivational speaker, that's ok, you can overcome that. You have recognized your not a great reader so you can practice and learn and you can no longer be held back by that limit and reach your dream. All in all you should definitely believe in your dreams but not by sitting around and hoping it will happen, its by overcoming your limits and making them your strength to find the thing you really love.
We often like to assume that the way people look determines their culture, however people of different cultures can look like anyone even if it doesn't seem possible or common. For example a person who is white in race may be hispanic, for they may be from Spain which is located in Europe where people are predominantly of the white race. We would like to assume that all hispanics have a more caramel colored skin tone with brown eyes and black curly hair, however the girl in out example does not look like that at all, even though since she is from spain she is most certainly hispanic. This can apply to anyone, perhaps you meet an African American who is from China. People have culture no matter what they look like, and they are not making it up for attention or to relate to others, ones ethnicity does not determine their nationality. Once we make the realization that all kinds of people, have all kinds of cultures, more people may be able to express that part of themselves, and let their pride for their culture shine through.
In the world we live in today equality is a big deal and as we change and make this transition people are bound to clash. People have different opinions and even though you may not agree with them its not like the population of people who have that opinion will magically go away. People may take offense to some of the opinions of these people and vise versa however the world isn't perfect and people are bound to take offence to things. As much as we all want to live in harmony and sing kumbaya thats never going to happen. people are people and we all think and act differently, and thats one of the things that make the human race so unique. Never the less humans all deserve respect and that includes a respect on opinion, even if you don't agree with it because chances are you wont be able to change their mind. People get offended and people say hurtful things, that will never change, however you can. You can ignore the negative and be the positive, because no matter someones opinion you can be happy as you.
The world constantly tells you that you are beautiful, that you are perfect and to just be yourself, but the world also tells you that in order to do that you need to be thin, to have silky smooth hair, perfect teeth, be positive and talented, to have people dying to be you, hang out with you, go out with you, so what part of the world do you listen to? Here's the thing, there are about 7 billion people on this earth, it is impossible to make 7 BILLION people happy, but you can definitely make 1 person happy, that person is you. Its true, everyone wants to be loved and accepted but if people don't love you or accept yo for who you really are, they are not accepting you, they are accepting the shadow, the cracked, hollow casing you made of yourself so you could feel happy because people would hang out with you. However shadows are dark, and the casings are hollow and empty of the feeling your really looking for. That love you are searching for is only real when its the real you, otherwise the thing, not person but thing, because it is fake, that they love doesn't exist. You exist and you matter and if people do not love you for who you are then they never truly loved you. If you come out of your shadow, into the light and fill the hollow cast then the people you have been searching for this whole time, a family of people who truly love you for you will emerge and you can be the real kind of happy. The kind of happy you could not feel before, because once you become the whole version of yourself you are set free. It is within you to be happy, it is within you that you are strong, it is within you that you are beautiful. Within you is love.
People say we are the stars of our own story, well here's a little fact about stars, the hotter they are, the brighter they burn. Listening to that I am sure you are wondering why I just told you a fact about stars, its because I think this most certainly can apply to people. It is engraved in our brains from a very young age that there are 2 kinds of people, the smart ones and the beautiful ones, however this is not true in any way, shape, or form. The brightest stars are the hottest, your brain can make you beautiful in so many ways, and the most beautiful faces can still be scientific geniuses. Intelligence and beauty are not intertwined, they are completely separate from one another, so next time someone asks you "beauty or brains" you can say both, because you, like a star, can be hotter AND brighter.
Fire, a dangerous and destructive thing. When most people think of fire, they think exactly that, death, smoke, and just pain in general. This is true but fire is more. People always tell you that you need to make mistakes in order to learn from it and its true. But why would we need to feel pain, emotionally, or physically? I know there are someday when you ask why this had to happen to you, if everything happens for a reason what it the reason this is happening, this can be an impossible question. Well hears the answer, to make you stronger, pain is there to help you grow, to become better, to inspire you, to make you have something to work towards. Think about most of the people in today society who we call heroes, most did not have an easy life, they had the fire, they had something they needed to escape, they had to run away from the smoke to keep from breathing in the ashes, and because they had a reason to run forward, because they had a reason to keep trying to get something better, they turned into something amazing. So embrace the fire, walk through it with a smile because while the fire may be painful you can turn it into something amazing. Fire may seem destructive at times and it is, but it can give life too, like with forest fires, they may be dangerous but they are actually essential to the environment. They are essential to your life too, and no matter how big the fire i promise you can walk through it, sure you may burn yourself a few times but burns heal, and so will you.
Alot of girls are asked weather they would rather be beautiful or smart, hears my answer; I don't understand the question. Last time I checked putting on mascara dose not glue a girls eyes shut so she cant read the great works of Shakespeare. Last time I checked her fake nails don't keep her from holding her pencil and finishing up that calculus problem. Last time I checked a girls lip gloss dose not seal her mouth closed and prevent her from speaking up to give an oral report. Last time I checked a girls primer dose not rot her brain. Last time I checked a girls eye shadow doesn't make them so heavy that she falls asleep in class. In fact last time I checked we can do it all and more. So now lets rephrase the question, how many times have you been asked "beauty or brains" because last time I checked we are asked it far to many times. Nobody tells a man that he is too handsome to run for office so why are we any different. So back to the question, beauty or brains, I will take both, thanks.
As many of us grow up we face hard times in life, and sometimes we wont want to talk about them because we are afraid people wont understand because "she is so perfect" "that girls so smart" and everyone but me has a way better life. But guess what that girl who you saw walking down the hallway with the medal hanging around her neck that you thought won everything, she has been trying for 3 years to win that award. That girl who you thought was rich because she has her own credit card, she works 6 hours a day to support her family. That girl who gets As everyday in English class who you thought was a genius, she is struggling in that class and had to get a tutor. That girl who you saw with the perfectly clear skin, she is getting surgeries done on it because people kept telling her she was not pretty. That girl with a boyfriend "living in a romance novel", that is really her brother who is pretending to be her boyfriend so she will fit in. YOU have an amazing body, no matter what it looks like. YOU are smart, no matter what the grades you get. YOU try hard and earn what you get. YOU are talented, no matter what people say. YOU have good in you, no matter what rumors you may here. YOU are beautiful, no matter what that magazine says. YOU are worth it. THAT is what makes you a human being worth knowing. THAT is what makes your life beautiful, even though life can be messy. Not grades that will disappear in the summer. Not skin that will eventually change as you grow up. Not the competitions you win at an age as young as ours. Not that you have money to flaunt around. What matters is the PERSON you grow up to be. Not what you got now, but what you will gain later. So your right, I DON'T understand because my life inst the same as yours, that dose not mean its easier, it just means its different. So tell me, MAKE me me understand, because through caring and understanding is how we change each other, build each other up, and find strength inside you that you did not know was there. So tell me, no matter who I am, or what you think I have, because just like I don't understand, you don't understand what I am going through, not unless I tell you myself. Don't judge me by what you think because chances are your guess was way wrong, understand me, so I can understand you.